OF the many things, just one needs real attention:
I changed the swappiness first to 10... boom! Now it's one and the memory is half. IMO squid leaks memory!
INC4884548 i can't understand why only this machine gives this issue, and not its sister... to me this makes little sense, as it is using swap with plenty of available ram
MiB Mem : 63772.9 total, 665.7 free, 37414.9 used, 26348.4 buff/cache
MiB Swap: 8192.0 total, 36.7 free, 8155.3 used. 26358.0 avail Mem
... could it be this?
To check the swappiness value
cat /proc/sys/vm/swappiness
To change the swappiness value A temporary change (lost on reboot) with a swappiness value of 10 can be made with
sudo sysctl vm.swappiness=10